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Wendy Allen Counseling and Therapies

I have been in private practice for 35 years. I am very well trained and very experienced. I work with anyone who comes into my office, no matter their problem. I have developed lots of expertise in many areas over the years. My fee per in-office session is $135.00/hr to $165.00/hr.

In addition I love to work with:

  1. Happy Marriages Are Possible
  2. EMDR for trauma and anxiety
  3. Depression and Anxiety
  4. Affair Repair Therapy

1- HAPPY MARRIAGES ARE POSSIBLE! Couples and Marriage Therapy

My Therapy Program: Two-hour sessions once per week for three months.

I have studied every aspect of marriage therapy--from pre-marital therapy to co-parenting for divorced parents. This is a huge scope along a single spectrum of couples therapies and coaching. Currently, I am most interested in helping marriages stay together, using divorce-busting techniques. I also can work with only one partner and help them improve the marriage with solo efforts.

"I'm sorry dear. I wasn't listening. Can you repeat what you've said since we've been married?"

the new rules of marriageIn my office the relationship is the "patient" and each partner is a contributor to this "bank." The type of "deposits" made directly impact the well-being of the "bank." The defensive, confused, and resentful deposits hurt my "patient". Consistent acts of kindness, honesty, and compassion make my "patient" healthier. Much of this work depends upon the individual health and growth each contributor is willing to do in my office.

See my three newsletters about "The New Rules of Marriage" by clicking on the Newsletter tab.


Check "The New Rules of Marriage" by Terrence Real on

Check "I Don't Want to Talk About It" by Terrence Real on

Check "Therapy with a Coaching Edge" by Lynn Grodzki on

Check "Wonderful Marriage" by Lilo Leeds, Gerard Leeds & Terrence Real on

Check "After the Affair" by Janis A. Spring on

Check "How Can I Get Through to You?" by Terrence Real on

Check "Daring Greatly" by Brené Brown on

Check "Getting the Sex You Want" by Tammy Nelson on

Check "Facing Codependence" by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller and J. Keith Miller on

Check "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller and J. Keith Miller on


I have been working with couples for 30 years. I have trained with the best marriage therapists in the world and have seen hundreds of couples. Marriage and Couples therapy is a different entity than individual or family therapy and takes a specialized training. I specialize in a cutting-edge marriage program, “The New Rules of Marriage.” This is the absolute best model I have ever worked, going deeply, holding frailties compassionately, and showing you how to fix what’s broken in the marital interactions and/or individual behaviors. I am all about changing behaviors and attitudes and teaching couples what works and sustains. The research says that the model of therapy I use is changes marriages 75% of the time, which is better than the 50% I used to get. The perspectives and skills you will learn with me will be tailored for both of you and will last you a lifetime. When you work with me you will notice immediately that we are in a different experience than any couples counseling you have done before. There is hope for your marriage and it is with the program I offer.

2- EMDR Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing for trauma and profound change

EMDR is a power-therapy. It can be done in a few sessions and help you reverse the distorted aspects of unresolved trauma, anxiety, addictions, OCD, and many other personal struggles.
EMDR acts as kind of re-wiring of the brain. This re-programming is necessary to heal and correct the way the brain has tried for years to adapt and compensate for trauma or strangulating disorders that keep you stuck. This stuckness causes distorted thinking, feelings, and reactive behaviors. Brief and intensive healing is possible!

I will be glad to send you more information about EMDR and how it works.

3- Depression and Anxiety

Are You Depressed?

4- Affair Repair Therapy

I will bring you and your partner through the stages of affair recovery from revelation, grieving, honest communication, behavioral changes, and establishing a new kind of intimacy.



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