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January 2015


Dare to step into the world as an equal to every other human being. Do not be awed and intimidated by someone's fame, position, money, or connections. They and you are fellow humans—no better, no worse. When you shrink inside to someone's “power” or prestige, you send yourself the message that you are somehow less than that person. Don't send yourself this message.

It's not just women who do this. Men do it, too.

Know your worth, own your worth, and don't shrink in your head or in your actions toward anyone else. Be your own human self and see everyone in the same light—even if they see themselves as being in a more important light. They are not.

Approach the unapproachable, speak to the untouchables and hold accountable the entitled and unaccountable.

“Don't puff up, don't shrink, hold your sacred ground” --Brene Brown

Challenge:  Hold your head high always. Don't silence your voice, minimize your contributions, or question your worth because of someone else's job, money, power, or position. See others and yourself as fellow human beings walking in the world as equals—because you are.


Mostly by: Lisa Merlo-Booth, (my mentor)


Wendy Allen, Ph.D, MFT is an expert in couples and marriage therapy. She has been practicing in Santa Barbara for almost 30 years. She is the only Marriage therapist in the tri-counties using the Real Relational Living model, from which all of these ideas are based upon.